Posted on March 27, 2015
“Life isn’t easy” is the old saying, but it does not have to be hard either. It is all in how you perceive it. Are you taking your challenges to heart holding yourself back or sparking your curiosity to fuel your heart towards your most meaningful self?
The struggles we face throughout our lives are not there to cause us harm, they are there to help us grow into an even more magnificent version of ourselves.
Yet we meet new challenges all the time. Sometimes they can feel like we are stuck in quicksand with no chance of recovering. Other times the challenge can feel like a light ocean breeze, with little effort we overcome it. How can there be such a difference?
If your challenges seem easily confronted and overcome, they are simply in alignment with your truth and your values. You know what you want, how to handle them, and can easily do so.
When you come face to face with a challenge, and all you find is resistance, you are given an opportunity. This is your moment to ensure the efforts you are taking are aligned with your values and will help you achieve your own personal greatness. However, it is possible the resistance is showing up to offer a message of new understanding or reveal a possibility that has not been previously considered.
Recognizing the resistance in challenges we face and checking in with ourselves is how we can learn to grow through them. Here is one way you can do this.
First take a moment to notice how you feel and what thoughts are present in the challenging situation. Do you feel good about it or are there any negative feelings showing up? What thoughts are you hearing? Take note of these.
Then ask yourself, what is most important in this situation. Are your actions in alignment with your core values?
If your values are being compromised or are not even present in this situation, the resistance is trying to tell you an important message about your actions. You likely need to reconsider your efforts.
If your values are fully recognized and in alignment, and you still notice resistance, check what the resistance really looks like.
What do you believe about this situation? There could be an old belief that needs to be understood and transformed to serve you now in your current situation.
When you can bring awareness to beliefs that hold you back, and learn to work with them, you will notice thoughts and feelings begin to shift. Those that felt negative or unwanted will transform.
A few common beliefs I encounter, in my coaching practice and in myself, that we allow to hold us back are self-doubt, fear of failure and un-worthiness. They usually stem from something that occurred years ago that were meant to protect us, but today they are not needed in the same way. Overcoming resistance is recognizing that these beliefs can shift and change. They are not set in stone. You only need to bring them into your awareness and begin to work with them to create new positive and self-confident beliefs.
When you are in alignment with your values, bringing awareness to what you resist through your feelings, thoughts, and beliefs reveals the growth towards your dreams.
Resistance is the lesson. Overcoming the resistance is the moment of growth. Tweet this!
Life is an evolution of learning, it never stops. It is part of our nature and the more we work with this, the easier life becomes. Plus you get to live your truth!
What lessons have you grown with the most in your life? What resistance are you dealing with?
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Posted on March 9, 2015
Having power is often seen as egotistical. However, we are missing an important part of our self if we continue to hold this belief. The power I am referring to here is your inner sense of power. You could consider it as piece of your self-worth.
The two ends of the personal power spectrum I notice are: we often give our power away or can become overly aggressive with our power by demanding of others. Neither of these are healthy for anyone.
Our power is used in varying degrees and for multiple purposes. Consider how power shows up in your life and impacts your self-worth. Here are some ways to notice your power so you can use it in a healthy manner.
Take responsibility for your emotions, your thoughts, and your actions. You have a choice in everything. What ever emotions are impacting you, they are yours. They are for you to work through. No one can do this for you. It is up to you to allow the emotion to move and release. Your thoughts impact your actions, pay attention to them. We may not always be able to control our thoughts, but we can choose which ones we hold. You are the master of your temple, that means your thoughts and actions are yours to manage. Laying blame on someone else or justifying a situation gives your power away. As you learn to own your power you will notice how much control you actually have over your self-worth.
When we have needs to be met, we may look to others to help meet those needs. This is not a loss of power, however laying blame on others is submissive in power and demanding of others is an overly aggressive use of power. Keeping your power and asking for your needs to be met, while allowing the other person to hold their power is not difficult, it simply takes an assertive and kind demeanour. Acknowledge what you are feeling about the situation and know what you need to ask for, then take into account the other person’s feelings. How will what you need to ask for affect them? By asking for your needs to be met with a kind and loving voice you help keep the power in balance, which also helps in having your needs met.
Do Not Steal the Power of Others
Our kind hearts can often do this without realizing. We simply wish to show appreciation. When someone offers a gift, it has become our nature to feel the need to offer a gift back. Here is an example. When someone offers you a compliment, there are two common responses, both of which steal power. You either discount their compliment, maybe saying “Oh, this old thing”, or you immediately reflect the compliment back at them. When someone offers you a gift, they are doing so in their own power. Allow them to keep it by graciously saying “thank you”.
There are numerous situations in life where we can give our power away or demand more than our share. It is up to you to begin to notice them to honour your self-worth and the self-worth of others. We must first become aware of the situations where there is a power imbalance. Then ask yourself, “how will I handle this situation the next time is shows up?”. With anything we are learning in personal growth, it can take time to carry out the new way of being, but recognizing the boundaries of your self-worth is indeed powerful.
Let’s build a community of balance and respect.
Stand in your power and let others stand in theirs. Tweet this!
What are your takeaways from this article? How would a shift in power impact your life?
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May your power be with you,
Posted on February 7, 2015
Your center, or your true self, which speaks through the inner guide of your gut instincts or your heart’s intuition is always there even when life seems to pull you away from it.
Many of us are focused on finding our center, staying in alignment with our truth, and doing everything possible to not wavering from this place. Then when we do fall away from it, we beat our selves up mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically with shame, guilt, sadness or harm.
There have been many times in my life when I have felt myself waver away from this centered and peaceful place in my being. I have felt angry, confused, scared and at times almost entirely out of touch with my self. But today I know that was okay.
Because I am human and in finding my way back to my true self, I grew.
We need to experience the extreme edges of our beings, those places that hold vast wisdom to then determine what works for us and what does not. We can discern through our heart, our gut, and our strongest place of inner intuition, exactly what we need, and then shift.
When we pay attention to those difficult moments and wise feelings, we receive the opportunity of personal growth. We can notice what need is not being met through our actions, and begin to make choices that will bring us back into alignment with our center.
Our center is our peaceful home, but our growth is found in the edges, on our way back to our center. Tweet this!
Next time you feel off, try not to fret or cause yourself harm, notice what you need and allow your inner guide to bring you back home.
What is your experience with being out of alignment with your center? Please share your experience.
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Appreciate your edges.
Posted on January 17, 2015
Our intention with should is often to better ourselves, or make a choice that will benefit others. But what is the essence of should and how does it impact us?
In recent weeks I have been making some important decision for myself and I noticed the word should was often showing up. It was around the second or third decision that I began really hearing what was behind the ‘should’.
First of all, there was justification. The essence of justification is what is right and reasonable. However, in making these decisions for myself, right and reasonable was feeling off. I was telling myself what do to based on beliefs I held about what was best, but it did not feel good. My beliefs were based on old experiences that did not serve me today. By realizing this, I was able to shift my beliefs and step into what is actually right and reasonable for me now.
Second, by ‘shoulding’ myself, I was giving away my power.
Say the word should to yourself now. Does it feel like your own? Not really, hey? When we ‘should’ ourselves into an intention or action, we are not able to own the power of it. It feels forced.
Consider something you have been telling yourself you ‘should’ do for some time now.
Say, “I should do x”… Now try, “I can do x”.
What difference do you notice? Giving yourself the choice of ‘can’ allows you to carry your power into the choice.
But there is more to really find your truth.
As you say you can do something, notice what makes this important to you.
Now, you can also check into the justification of your decision. What do you believe about your choice? Is your decision based on what is right and reasonable for you now?
If there are any beliefs you hold about your choice that do not feel good, you may be holding an old belief that is not serving you today. It is possible to shift those beliefs with awareness, understanding, and action.
Then you can step into the power of what you will do.
With every ‘should’ you say, you give your power away. Tweet this!
The next time you should yourself into a decision, take back your power, turn it into a can, notice your belief about why, take note of any belief you need shift, and then step into what you will actually do.
What is your experience when you ‘should’ yourself into a decision? How will you take back your power?
Please take a moment share your experiences and comments.
Thank you for spending a few moments reading my article today. I hope you take away some powerful awareness for your decision-making.
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May the power be in you.
Posted on December 30, 2014
Before I talk about anything to do with the new year ahead, I want to remind you of one very important thing…
“You are enough, right now, exactly as you are.”
What do I mean by enough?
It means everything you have done right up to this moment is perfect. Your journey up to today has brought you right to where you are supposed to be. All experiences and lessons are part of your great journey in this life.
Now that you understand you are enough, you can look to how you want to grow in the coming year.
The common theme of New Years resolutions often revolves around health and wellbeing. This is awesome and is very needed, but I would like to bring in another concept in this intention setting. It is not only about what you want to do, but about how you want be.
For example, if you want to be an early riser, you will go to bed earlier. If you want to be more present, you will ignore distractions that take away your attention.
Here are a few questions to reflect on as you plan your desired way of being in the coming year. Get out a pen and journal, and take your time. Feel free to do it a few times, you may have a few ways of being you want to focus on.
1. What way of being do I want to bring attention to and mould for my highest good?
2. How will that attention impact my wellbeing?
3. What are my challenges to evolve this way of being?
4. What strengths do I have that will help me mould my attention for this way of being?
5. What is my desired outcome in moulding my way of being?
6. How will I continue to accept I am enough, if my desired outcome is not reached, or changes?
Take the important points and put them in a place you will see them often or create some affirmations or mantras to work with each day, as reminders of how you want to be.
When we focus on how we want to be, we purposefully take action on what we need to do. Tweet This!
Every year we evolve, we grow and learn. Remember to allow space for your resolutions to evolve throughout the year. Revisit these questions anytime. What you see as your best intention today, may change as you go about the year.
And remember how you grow, will also be enough.
Please share your ways of being, you may inspire others! I resolve to be courageous.
Thank you for taking the time to read this article. I hope it gave you something to reflect on as you step into 2015 and your continued journey in highest good.
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As I reflect on 2014, I am very grateful for my connection with all of you. You give me purpose in sharing these articles. Here’s to 2015, creating more connections and helping each other be our greatest self!
Inner peace and joyful love.
Posted on December 7, 2014
Be mindful of your:
• Intentions – Notice your intention in each choice. Ask, “does this support my highest good or am I giving away my precious energy for a purpose that does not match what I need?”.
• Actions – On those busy days, be present to your self; emotionally, physically and mentally. Be okay with honouring your needs and make your decisions based on them.
Posted on November 24, 2014
Living presently does not require you to forget or forgive your past, instead you can learn how to bring it with you. Accept and embrace all the parts that make you, You.
Throughout life we journey through many highs and lows; celebration and challenges; certainty and uncertainty. Each experience offers a variety of life learnings and new possibilities.
Every time you overcome an obstacle or realize the benefits of your efforts, a new part emerges within your existing self. You may feel a deeper sense of self connection after making a challenging decision or you may feel accomplishment as you take a step you never new possible. When you acknowledge the parts that endured the journey with you, you can draw on them when you need them in the future.
In my early 20’s, I went through some challenging years. As I came through them I noticed a stronger sense of self. I felt confident and connected to more of my possibilities. Although the challenges were difficult, I learned how to bring these parts of myself into my present instead of allowing them to fade into my past.
As I moved away from the challenging experiences I realized I did not need to forget or forgive myself for what happened. I chose acceptance instead and I felt closer to the part of me emerging from the experiences. I was opening up to who I was becoming. As I learned to embrace all parts of me, I felt more connected to my needs, my strengths, and my truths.
Your past transforms parts of you which prepare you for your future, draw on those parts in your present. Tweet this!
We have many parts of our self which make up who we are today. The past experiences we had do not define us, but the parts of self that emerge help to create us. Some parts will hold a more impactful place in our lives than others, but each part needs acknowledgment for the efforts endured and growth received.
Allow all past parts of you into your present, you will come to know your true self more deeply.
How do you reflect on your past? Do you see the value your past experiences offer you today?
Please comment and share your experiences!
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From all of my parts to all of yours…