Truth Found in Friendship

Friendships help us reveal our truth through each experience.

Friendships come in many forms. For instance, we have family as friends, our childhood friends, college/university friends, work friends, our extended circles of friends, best friends,  and pet friends. Each relationship offers incredible value in our lives.

Friendships can come and go. Some are short experiences, while others span years. Some bonds in friendship seem timeless, where you can pick up again anytime, no matter what has changed in your lives. But you can find one thing in all, revelation of your values.

The point is, friendships always leave us with experiences and these experiences become part of our personal growth. As we grow, we can clearly identify with what is important to us, our values and our truth.

holding-hands6Here are some of my values I have identified through friendships:

Patience and compassion as we learn about each other.
Respect as we create boundaries around each others needs.
Acceptance, even with disagreement.
Forgiveness despite any hurt, whether intended or not.
Support for each other through growth and challenges.
Peace as the relationship finds  balance.
Love in the entire connection.

Friendships help reveal our values so we can learn to live our truth. Tweet this.

Recently, I lost one of my best friends, Budz the cat. He was a constant being of love in my life for the last 7 years. As I reflect back on our 7 years together, I see how our friendship helped me grow and how I learned what I truly valued through it. I also see how Budz grew and reflected many of these values back to me. I can see the divine plan of our journey together. Although his exit is still hard to feel, as I reflect on our friendship, his purpose here was served well. The memories of our experiences together will be treasured in my heart and soul, while the truths revealed will remain part of who I am.

So, I will leave you with this. Treasure your friendships, see the value in what they bring. No matter the length of time together, pay attention to the truth that is revealed to you from them.

What is your experience of friendships that have come and gone in your life? Do you see your truths revealed in the course of each friendship?

Please share your experiences with values and truth in friendships in the comments.

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May your friendships leave loving imprints on your soul so you can live your truth.

Many blessings friends,
Brenda

What Advice Would You Give?

Welcome to Fall friends!

When the autumn arrives in September, we have had the opportunity to settle into our new routines after the fun-filled summer. For me, autumn is that time of year when we still experience the warmth of the sun during the day, yet we get to start bundling up in the evenings and slowly get ready for the darker nights of winter. It is a reflective time of year for me.

I love to see the beauty of the land that grew, blossomed, and now begins to fall back to the earth. I get to see children back in school ready to tackle another year of awesome learning. Mostly, I enjoy the experience of looking back over the year so far, reflecting on all of the experiences that have brought me to where I am today. (It’s also my birthday month, so reflection on the year is very present!)

Autumn FallingDo you ever notice when you look back on life, some things stand out that you wish you would have done differently? That said, you can’t go backward. Acceptance of where you are at right now is so important in being present in your life.

So what can you do with those thoughts of the past and how you would have done things differently?

Give loving advice to others that are walking closely behind you in similar steps. Tweet This!

It is especially kind to do this when opportunities arise or when you feel you can really offer someone support. But please remember, part of giving advice is letting go of it once you offer it. By this I mean, respecting the person you offer it to is still going chose their own path.

So I ask you, if you reflect back on this past year or another time in your life where you would have done something differently, what advice would you give others that are following in similar footsteps?

Please share the loving advice you would give the younger version of yourself in the comments section or on the my group Facebook page, so others can benefit from your experiences and lessons.

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Brenda

The Gift of Time

When the needs around you change, notice when you have the opportunity to use energy you would normally apply to one place to another.

This week I was given a gift. The gift of time. My loving partner was off to work on a contract in the US, leaving me to my own convictions for the week.

As he planned his week away, I realized that I would have an opportunity to tap into my needs and wants in a very intentional way.

As a nurturer, I often find myself working to balance my care and attention for others with my own needs. However, this week I found removing the nurturer of others energy allowed me to instead apply that energy to myself.

So what did this refocus of energy give me?

I took that first day to just be, kind of settle in the space of being alone in our home. You know, taking a big ahhh…

IMG_4845The second morning, I woke up knowing what my focus was going to be. I had bought a workbook called the Solopreneur Sojourn Retreat by Jac McNeil for women entrepreneurs back in January. I hadn’t taken the time to actually get into it. So I did… And Wow, it was two days of deep diving into my needs as an entrepreneur, taking soulful time for me, and some BIG aha’s about things holding me back. I reconnected to the values of my business and why I do the work I do. Plus! I walked away with a time-lined business action plan to implement that was rooted with my soul purpose. (If you are a women entrepreneur, I highly recommend checking it out here!)

Those two days lit a fire under me that propelled me forward with inner connection to my self wisdom. So much so, that my action plan I had set for two weeks, began showing up quicker than I anticipated! Whoot! Whoot! :)

So as I sit here, Friday morning, knowing that my beloved will be back tonight, I reflect on the gift.

The next time you are given the gift of time, with minimal distractions, ask yourself, how can I use this to nurture me. I know there are a lot of nurturers out there reading this, and I want to remind you… You do your best work in serving others, when you serve yourself first.

When are you going to give yourself the gift of time? Make your commitment to yourself here and now. Shout it out to the world! Share it in the comments so you are more apt to hold your self to the commitment.

Live in balance, own your energy, and the universe will nurture you. Tweet This!

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with soulful intention,
Brenda

What’s Stopping You?

Sensing a dream you desire, but all you see are hurdles; self-doubt and fears set in, suddenly your are stopped dead in your tracks.

Do you ever find yourself in these moments? Stopping yourself from achieving your dreams?

Manifesting what you know will give you great joy can seem daunting. But consider this, if you received it without effort, would you really appreciate it? Would you be grateful?

So how do you hurdle the walls that present themselves in front of your dreams?

If you’re ready to really feel your dream and live it, try out this three-step process:

1 – Check in with your true intentions for your dream.
What do you want to give the world around you, through your effort? What true purpose lives in your dream? Feel it.

2 – What is natural to you in manifesting this dream?
Feel this purpose in your entire body; what makes it real to you? Notice that part in you that really comes alive.

3 – Draw on your inner resources to set your dream in motion.
Keep this feeling present. What inner resources can you tap into to put it in motion? Be creative. Imagine the possibilities are endless.

Notice how you brought the feeling towards you, through the wall? You can feel your dreams’ presence in you already. Now tap into this feeling and put your true efforts in motion.What's Stopping You

“Your greatest joy lives on the other side of whole-hearted effort.” Tweet this!

What was your experience of this exercise? I’d love to hear from you. Please share your comments below or send me an email at brenda@seabrightspirit.ca.

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See Your Bright Spirit Shine, let’s make the world glow, together!

Namaste,
Brenda

Unconditional Love Begins With ‘Me’

Do you think the Wicked Queen in Snow White led us to believe that looking in the mirror and wanting to love our self was wrong?

Today, we are often led to believe that loving yourself is egotistical. That you will be judged and ridiculed if you show more care for your self, than those around you.

Not that you would have the intentions of the Wicked Queen, but why can we not enjoy loving our self, just the way we are. To look in the mirror and say, “Hi Self, I love that smile today!”

We have become so identified with our physical appearance that we do not easily see our internal self with love and clarity of what is our true essence. More and more we hide from this amazing person we hold deep within.

Here are three ways to begin to see your self for the beautiful being you truly are.

Heart in SandAcknowledge your self-judgements – Notice what you are saying to yourself when you look in the mirror. If there are hurtful words or thoughts coming from within you, who are you comparing yourself to? Would you say that to someone else?

Embracing your imperfections – No one is perfect, no one. We are all human beings with numerous imperfections. This week, see if you can feel some love for one thing you typically have not loved about your self. (For me, it started with my butt, I had to learn to love it, because no matter how hard I worked out, it never got smaller, hey J-lo?!)

Learn to love your self first – Feel your greatness and beauty from the inside out. Love yourself the way you want to be loved. If you can love yourself first, you will have more love to give others. And it will come from a genuinely loving place.

If the Wicked Queen could see her self both inside and out, maybe she would have saw the beautiful, courageous person she really was.

When we love our self unconditionally, we are better able to offer love to those around us. Tweet This!

Also, I think it is important to note that I am not saying, don’t strive to be a better you, just love yourself along the way!

In this moment…You Are Perfect, Just The Way You Are.

How do you lean into your greatest self love? Is it unconditional? Please share your comments and experiences.

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xo, Brenda

Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

Negative self-talk is toxic to your true potential. When talking to yourself or about yourself, do you ever hear words that leave you feeling sick, unhappy or rejected? Isn’t it time you started to talk to yourself the way you talk to everyone else?

Let’s get to know this negative self-talk so we can learn to how change it into positive self-talk. It’s time to treat your self the way you deserve to be treated.

You may be asking, what is self-talk?

Self-talk is that voice you often hear in your head, your internal thoughts. It interprets what you perceive and has a constant dialogue internally. Sometimes we will even share this dialogue externally with those around us.

How do you know if it’s impact is positive or negative?

There are many ways to analyze the self-talk, but I tend to pay attention to how it makes me feel. Does what your am saying to yourself feel exciting and joyful or does it leave you feeling drained and unhappy? This can be challenging to uncover, but I will get into that more in a minute.

It takes compassion to look at your negative thoughts.

From my experience as a coach and even working through my own experiences, I have noticed that the self-talk often stems from perceptions to our past experiences. The perception of your experience created thoughts which had a purpose at the time, usually trying to protect you from something. It is simply a perception that hasn’t grown or changed with you and now impacts your self-talk.

When working with clients, I often hear self-talk come across with a sense of certainty. These are thoughts in our minds, right? So we believe them to be true. But are they REALLY true?

We perceive them to be true because we have said them over and over in our minds. For example, the past relationship that seems to reoccur with every new one because it is the way you are; the unwanted weight that continues to weigh you down because you can’t stop eating treats; the job you can’t get because you’ll never know enough. These are all perceptions you hold about yourself, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

Broken RecordYou CAN change your perceptions and self talk!

1. Listen for those words that seem so real, but don’t feel good. When do you find yourself getting down on yourself about something? Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings.
2. Then notice, what I am saying to myself right now? Once you start to hear it you will notice it when it shows up. Just like that awesome car you want to buy and suddenly see it everywhere. Your awareness changes.
3. Take the time to acknowledge it. What does it stem from? When did you first start saying this to yourself? What do you believe about this? Is it still protecting you from something?
4. Create a new dialogue. This is extremely important to trust yourself here. What do you really want to hear yourself say? What feels better?
5. Now Say It! When ever you hear that old broken record come into your thoughts, STOP, and put on the new track! Liberate your thoughts into what feels really good for you.

Even if your new dialogue feels awkward at first, please give it time. Play with it and see how you feel. Remember to allow it to change as your perceptions change. Your greatest potential is waiting for you in your positive self-talk!

I’d love to hear your ‘thoughts’ on this! What is your experience with your self-talk? Please share your comments.

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xo, Brenda

Ebb and Flow with Change

The ebb and flow of creating change in our lives can often be pictured like this…

One day you’re ready, stepping forward feels so good, you know your future is bright, you can feel the changes flowing within you and somehow the next day you’re standing there saying, “Where did that darn brick wall come from? I am obviously not ready yet.” or “I can’t even move, it’s best I stay where I am at.”

When we begin to make change and choose new steps in our lives, we often feel that initial flow of excitement screaming “YES!! This is what I have been looking for, life is going to be fantastic!” And we will ride that wave for a day, a few days, a week, but as is life, the excitement does not always last and reality kicks in. That incredible change you envisioned suddenly feels daunting, scary, or down right uncomfortable.

Why!? Why do we resist the change we want?

Well, just like the tides ebb and flow, we also flow through changes in our emotions and in our physical body. This can impact our momentum. In every moment things are shifting and moving with the flow of life. Nothing really stops, but it can seem to stand still. Our emotions fly high and then come down from the clouds to take a rest on the soil. In our bodies, old cells die and new cells grow. In reality, we are constantly changing even when things seem to stay the same.

How do we still create the change that we long for, knowing that brick walls are likely going to show up?

Ebb and FlowWell, let’s start with setting the expectation with ourself. It is important to recognize that with change there will be days of great leaps and bounds forward and there will be days that nothing makes sense and you may even feel like you are going backward. Allow your growth to be natural and true. Go with your own flow and honour it through the ups and downs.

Now, how about being prepared. What is your support system like for the change you want to create. Although it is up to your to take your own steps, having support can be exactly what you need to help you get through the challenges. Having someone to help you work through the blocks, encourage you through the mud, and celebrate with the victories can really make the entire change experience much lighter. Know who your person or people are that will be there for you, before you get started.

Remember it is a journey. This is one that I have to remind myself of constantly. When we set our sights on something that want, we often want it now. But as my Dad always said, “that is not the way the world works Brenda”. Besides if we got everything we wanted now, what kind of life would that be? The journey IS the experience; the true zest of life. Without the journey we lose the meaning, the importance, and the real growth.

So let’s flow with change, take the curves, the highs and lows, and those edges of our edge that keep us growing and expanding into our greatness.

Remember, with any change, you will flow, you will ebb, but with intention you will flow again. Tweet this!

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