Posted on July 4, 2014
Playful running, skipping, hopping, jumping, cartwheels, hand stands, and all those good feelings that came with them. How can we bring those joyful feelings back into our lives today?
You may not feel like you can do a cart-wheel anymore, but those passions for joy that we felt early in our lives are still possible and ready to play with you today!
Please take a moment to daydream a little with me.
Go back in your memory to when you were younger, maybe under 10. What were some of your favourite things to do? Take your time and really enjoy the experience of one or two in your mind.
How do you feel when you are there dreaming about this? Which of your senses come alive for you?
Personally, I reflect back and remember dancing. I felt so much joy and a feeling of being free when I danced as a child. Whirling and twirling, in the flow of my spirit. I can feel my heart expand with happiness when I think about it and my body feels like it wants to move.
When we can feel those sensations today from a simple memory of something in our youthful past, we now have an anchor into feelings and sensations that we truly appreciate.
We have a few choices of how to take this forward into our lives:
We can actual get out there and do what brought us that joy many years ago.
We can pay attention to the things we do today that bring us that kind of joy and do them more!
We can set an intention to find the activities that bring us those feelings and then use our intuition to guide us there.
We deserve to feel joy everyday and it is up to us to find the ways to bring ourself joy. Tweet This!
Let’s remind ourselves and encourage our friends and family to do the things that bring us the most joy. Because really, isn’t that joyful feeling the whole point!
What will you do today to bring more joy into your life?
Please share your comments and experiences so we can grow together!
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Posted on June 27, 2014
Carrying past hurt, anger, or frustration around with you can be toxic. These negative emotions can cause dis-ease on so many levels in our being. However, it is possible to release these negative feelings with the gentle use of forgiveness.
When situations cause us to feel hurt, angry, or frustrated there is a piece of us that tends to hide. We feel vulnerable and our instinct is to protect ourself. These feelings will often be that protector.
So, how can we still be protected, yet release the harmful emotions that can cause this toxic dis-ease?
Here are some steps to help you work through a situation to forgive, not to forget, but to release.
1. Acknowledge the feelings that are showing up – is it hurt, anger, frustration, or something else?
2. Clarify what situation is causing these feelings
3. Become aware of your perception of the situation
4. For a moment, try looking at the situation from perception of anyone else who is involved
5. Now, check in with your feelings again, and notice their impact on you physically, emotionally, and mentally
6. Ask yourself, how will these feelings impact me in the long-term if I hold on to them?
7. Then, notice how you feel now.
8. Now ask, what do I need to release these feelings? And honour that, with truth, self-love, and kindness towards others.
To help gain clarity at any time during this process, here are a few ideas:
– journal to get out all of your thoughts and emotions
– take a walk outdoors to find emotional and mental clarity
– sit in silence and ground yourself with meditation
If you choose to speak to anyone involved, please ensure you are not laying blame, but first ask them to hear you and once you have been heard completely, then ask if they have anything to offer or say.
Forgiveness does not only occur by speaking to someone about the situation. By simply, releasing the negative emotions that were held, we can release our ties to the situation and be free from it. Forgiveness is not about forgetting, because there are lessons in everything we do, it is about releasing and moving forward with the lesson.
Forgiveness offers lessons, so forgive, not to forget, but remember and move forward. Tweet This!
Is there a situation you could forgive and release? What lessons have you learned from forgiving?
May you always find the path to forgiveness.
Please comment and share your experiences.
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Posted on June 21, 2014
When our heart feels heavy about a choice we have made or our head is beating us up with over thinking our decision, it can throw us into a flurry of confusion and frustration. Wishing we had the opportunity to go back and do it again. Unfortunately, we often can not. We can try to make it right by other means or let it go and resolve to do it differently next time. If the undesired outcome gets caught in emotions and memories and becomes difficult to move forward from, this healing can take time, patience, self-awareness and love.
Would you like to be more at ease with your self and the outcome when you have a choice to make? Today I would like to take you on a journey to help you become more aware and connected to your self when making decisions.
Let’s start by reflecting on some past experiences to get a better understanding of their impact you. I invite you to try this with me and please take your time with it.
Think of a time when you made a decision that you thought was best, but immediately after you got a sick feeling in your heart or gut. What did you notice in this experience? How did it turn out?
Now, think of a time when you made a decision that you felt was best, but shortly after you had thoughts of rejection show up in your mind. What did you notice in this experience? How did it turn out?
Did the sick feeling or thoughts of rejection hold any sense of regret? Are you more drawn to one type of decision more than the other?
Although we can not go back and change these past events, these two reflections help us to understand what often influences our decision-making; our head or our heart. So let’s explore how we can work on becoming more connected to our true self for future decisions.
If we live only from our mind and thoughts our heart can feel left out or maybe not feel at all. Our emotions may become repressed or we avoid our feelings. If we live only from our heart, our mind’s logic and discerning abilities are not harnessed. We may become overly emotional and have a hard time trusting our feelings.
A good place to start with this is to notice what happens in your mind and your heart when you make decisions. You can use the examples you uncovered from our experiment above or any other situations. Do your head and heart feel balanced and connected? If you feel some disconnect between them, pay attention to what is not being heard or felt. Give it a voice or feel what it is longing for.
Conflict between your mind and your heart can lead to decisions of regret. Tweet this!
To help with decision-making, I would like to share with you a tool I learned from my Shamanic coach, Leia Gamache, I worked with a couple of years ago. She started me on my path of listening to body wisdom.
First, acknowledge all of the choices that are present. Take a deep breath in, let it out, and allow your energy to settle. Then, one at a time, say out a choice out loud as if you are going to do it. For example, “I will….”. Notice how you feel, any sensations in your body and any thoughts that may show up right after. Then do the same process for any other choice. For me, I usually notice one that feels more comfortable and my thoughts do not attack it. I know then that it is the better choice for me and I have a better sense of how it will affect me after the decision is made. If you have a choices you are weighing on now, try it out!
There is no fool-proof way to always make good decisions, as there are possible external circumstances that you can not control. However, learning to connect both your mind and your heart to your decisions can help you feel at ease with your decisions and live your life with truth and confidence in your self.
How would your life change if you were more connected to your self wisdom? What tools are you using to help you make decisions?
Please comment and share your experiences with decision-making! We an all learn from one another.
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Posted on June 13, 2014
This week, I was inspired by a conversation with a client to write about our thoughts and beliefs, how they impact us, and how we can work with them to create change in our lives.
How do our beliefs affect our lives? Our beliefs form our thoughts and our thoughts impact our feelings and actions. So, if we desire to change our actions and the way we feel, we can start by looking at where they stem from.
I’m sure you agree our beliefs are ingrained in us from many things in our lives. I see them largely impacted by what we are taught from society around us, but also, that they are formed from our personal experiences. What we experience through sight, feeling, taste, touch, and hearing leaves an imprint in our being. These imprints form memories in our mind, but also in our body.
If this experience is triggered down the road by new experiences, our old beliefs can take over. Sometimes, we begin to think a certain way and end up acting in habitual patterns, often because of what we believe to be our truth.
So how can we change these automatic responses? From my experience we can dive into the thought patterns that lay between the belief and the action or feeling.
When we hold a belief that causes a certain undesired action or feeling, we can become aware of that thought pattern that is taking us into this place that does not serve us. From here, we can learn and understand the thought pattern that is occurring and the underlying belief. It can be beneficial at this point to notice sensations in our body about this thought pattern and old belief. Pay close attention, there is a lot of wisdom that resides here.
Once we have identified the thoughts and any body sensations, ask, “What do I really need here, to serve me today, knowing what my intention is for this issue?” As you receive that new understanding, create a statement, or affirmation, that you can use, over and over, to begin to create a new thought pattern and more importantly, a new belief.
Verbal affirmations can change the thoughts in your mind and vibrate new memories in your body to change old beliefs. Tweet This!
I used to say I was a terrible runner. However, looking back, I recall myself watching people as they ran for years. Curious how they ran so far and how they felt after. When I was in elementary, I recall not doing well with long distances, so I stuck to the short sprints as much as I could. That fear and belief about my running stuck with me until this past year when I decided to get out there and try some short runs. My body ached, but it felt good, each little bit. During a run, I began to notice my thoughts would often try to take over and I would go back into old beliefs that I needed to stop and walk. This was not want I truly wanted, I wanted to go further. So, as I ran, slowly and steadily, I decided to start saying out loud to my self, “good job Brenda… you can do it… you’re doing great!”. I began to use these affirmations when my mind started to play games with me. With these powerful words, I pushed myself farther and farther until I surpassed what I ever thought I would ever run. And now with my affirmation in my pocket, I continue to push my limits.
Using affirmations to create what you want to believe, think, do and feel in your life is powerful work. Play with them, release expectations, and branch out with the vibrations that open you to all that is possible.
Did you once believe something that you no longer do today? When that belief changed, how did it impact your life?
Please share your experiences or comments.
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Posted on June 5, 2014
What is acceptance and how does it impact our lives?
As I look around at social media, pop culture and even in our communities, I see people seeking a sense of connection from the world around them. What I really notice, at the core of it all, is a need to be accepted.
But what is being accepted? Being accepted is being able to express yourself, dress the way you feel the best, hold your head up high, speak your truth from the heart, and pour your energy into work that truly sparks life into you.
What is holding us back from living our lives fully accepted? From my experience judgement is playing a big part.
I look back on my life and see many times I was afraid to do something in the fear that someone may judge me. I can’t even count how many times I felt sad and depleted when I didn’t follow my heart. Over time, I got into the habit of not listening to what lit me up, and more and more, I began losing touch with those parts of me that had more to offer. I followed various paths that didn’t light me up and took me into places I never thought I would be.
I realized in my early 30’s that if I continued to suffocate those truly deeper parts of me, that were slowly dwindling into the nether, that I would never truly love my self, embrace my life, or trust my decisions. As I started to make changes in my self, I found a new awareness, that it wasn’t simply the judgements of others that was holding me back, it was the judgements of my self that were holding me back.
“When we judge others we are actually bearing judgement upon our self.” Tweet this!
So, how can you let go of the judgements and feel accepted?
First, there is the self-awareness that we are all in the same boat. To keep it simple, let’s start by taking notice of this acceptance from outside of your self. How do you treat others? If and when you judge others, how does that judgement feel to you? Ask yourself, what in me is causing this judgement? Then start to take notice of when acceptance or judgements are falling on you, from your own thoughts.
Second, take some time for yourself. By this I mean, take some time, without distractions of anything that you would use to take yourself away from what you truly want and feel. Take a long walk outside or try an activity that you used to love that you haven’t tried in years. What do you notice? How do you feel about yourself? Are there any judgments that come up or can you find self-acceptance in your thoughts and actions.
Often when we start to bring awareness to these judgements, these thoughts about ourselves or others, we begin to notice areas of our lives that we want to change. New or old desires start to show up. There is fresh air and new life in being aware of our self-acceptance and acceptance of others.
There is a place for judgement to live in our lives, but from a place of acceptance and love. Judgement, if used positively can provide discernment in choice and awareness of the world around us.
How does acceptance impact you in your life? Do your own judgements hold you back? Do you get depleted in seeking acceptance from others?
Please share your comments and stories. (Remember, we are all in this together. If we can voice our stories and show our similar struggles, together we can become more accepting.)
Posted on May 30, 2014
What does it mean to walk the path less traveled? It means that you have to take some risks. It’s not simply following in someone else’s foot steps to get where you want to go. So, what is the benefit? Why take risks? In walking the path less traveled there is potential for growth through new ideas, adventure, and personal intentions.
If we take a path that has been carved out before us, we are not required to think and process how we will get to our destination. We may see a goal off in the distance. When we know that others have followed a path to get there, there is some certainty implied that we will get to the specific result.
When we allow ourselves to follow our instincts and carve a new path, there is some potential of not realizing, or even knowing, the result. What does this offer us? First, we get to listen to our own intuition about where to go next. Second, we can be agile and adjust the path as needed. Third, we get to be in the adventure of uncovering what is at the end of the path.
For instance, the other day my partner and I were out working on our land, starting our clean up of the great amounts of dead wood that has fallen. As we recently moved into our new home, I have not had the opportunity to explore it much. I ended up over by the north property line. Randomly, I decided to follow the property line and see what the land looked like way in the dead wood. As I climbed up over the dead trees, under branches, along a deer path here and there, I thought about this human-untouched land. There was so much beauty in the natural-scape. I was creating my path on our land to see it from a different view. When I got to the edge point of the land, the gift was revealed, a new view of our land. When I had set out on this mini adventure, I did not know why I was exploring, other than my intuitive curiosity lead me. However, when I got to that point I knew, I needed to get right in the dead wood and be with the land. It became even more home to me in that moment.
There are times when there is a specific path we must take to get to a certain goal or destination. Maybe there is only one road that will lead us there. When you find your self on this road, I suggest a couple of things; slow down, take it all in, stay present to the journey, and don’t be afraid to suggest other possibilities to get to the goal.
The next time you see an opportunity to take the road less traveled, I suggest you explore it! You never know what you will receive from it!
What are your experiences with taking the road less traveled? Have you purposely chosen to or somehow ended up there?
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Posted on May 23, 2014
Do you ever notice sensations in your body like tingling, pain, or tightness? These sensations are the wisdom of your body trying to send signals to your brain. Somehow the body signals can be missed by the confusion, distraction or avoidance our mind creates over our body.
Just as our mind is full of wisdom, so is our body. There are subtle reactions our body will give us in many situations. Here are a few simple ones that you may have noticed before:
* heavy eyes – maybe you’re tired or your eyes need a break from the computer screen
* deep sigh – maybe your relieved or becoming full from eating
* tight shoulders – maybe you need to relax or let go of something you are holding emotionally
* butterflies in the stomach – you may be excited or fearful about something
* light or heavy breathing – there are so many possibilities to this signal!
Our body is offering us its wisdom all the time. But are we paying attention? Are we giving it an opportunity to share and offer a path or solution to what we need? When the body offers it’s wisdom, there needs to be a conscious reflection in the mind to actually transport it into movement. If we allow the mind to simply ignore the body’s wisdom, we only stay connected to what the mind needs or wants. How often does that work out 100% in our the favour of our wholeness?
Does your mind ever lead you down a path where afterward your body is saying, why did you do that to me? Yes, me to. So, when that deep sigh comes during a meal, do you notice it? Or do you eat until your mind is satisfied? How about those butterflies, what do they really want for you? Is it that you are scared? Or maybe they are offering you belly full of courage. Maybe you are working diligently at your desk and your shoulders are becoming more and more tight. Your mind needs to finish the task, but your body needs you to get up and walk around for a few minutes to release some tension.
So how do we connect our mind and body so that they can move forward with our true intentions? We first need to become aware of our body’s sensations and signals. Then we also need to consciously pay attention to our thoughts. When our body sends us signals, we need to bring our thoughts and attention into that place. Notice what’s happening, notice our breath, and ask, “What does my body need now?”. Then allow the mind and body together to determine what is needed next.
In everything we do, our body is involved, through benefit or resistance. All it takes is some awareness of its signals and connection to the mind to create movement into what our whole self needs.
Today, take notice of what your body is saying to you. Allow your mind to become present to those sensations. Notice what is possible from here.
Please share your experiences with body-mind awareness!
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