Posted on January 17, 2015
Why Should You?
Our intention with should is often to better ourselves, or make a choice that will benefit others. But what is the essence of should and how does it impact us?
In recent weeks I have been making some important decision for myself and I noticed the word should was often showing up. It was around the second or third decision that I began really hearing what was behind the ‘should’.
First of all, there was justification. The essence of justification is what is right and reasonable. However, in making these decisions for myself, right and reasonable was feeling off. I was telling myself what do to based on beliefs I held about what was best, but it did not feel good. My beliefs were based on old experiences that did not serve me today. By realizing this, I was able to shift my beliefs and step into what is actually right and reasonable for me now.
Second, by ‘shoulding’ myself, I was giving away my power.
Say the word should to yourself now. Does it feel like your own? Not really, hey? When we ‘should’ ourselves into an intention or action, we are not able to own the power of it. It feels forced.
Consider something you have been telling yourself you ‘should’ do for some time now.
Say, “I should do x”… Now try, “I can do x”.
What difference do you notice? Giving yourself the choice of ‘can’ allows you to carry your power into the choice.
But there is more to really find your truth.
As you say you can do something, notice what makes this important to you.
Now, you can also check into the justification of your decision. What do you believe about your choice? Is your decision based on what is right and reasonable for you now?
If there are any beliefs you hold about your choice that do not feel good, you may be holding an old belief that is not serving you today. It is possible to shift those beliefs with awareness, understanding, and action.
Then you can step into the power of what you will do.
With every ‘should’ you say, you give your power away. Tweet this!
The next time you should yourself into a decision, take back your power, turn it into a can, notice your belief about why, take note of any belief you need shift, and then step into what you will actually do.
What is your experience when you ‘should’ yourself into a decision? How will you take back your power?
Please take a moment share your experiences and comments.
Thank you for spending a few moments reading my article today. I hope you take away some powerful awareness for your decision-making.
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May the power be in you.